Ways to attract women
Different methods and schools of thought. There are really two distinct ways to attract women – there are lots of different specific methods but the most important and understand distinct is between ‘direct’ and ‘indirect’ game.
Now what are these and why is this crucial? Direct game is where you let the woman know what your intentions are towards her – that you are attracted to her and want to sleep with her. For example ‘You’re really attractive, I just had to come over here and say hi’. Indirect game is where you approach the woman but she is not sure whether you are hitting on her or just being friendly. For example, you approach and ask her for her opinion on whether you should dye your hair blonde.
Let me explain this a bit more. There is a SWITCH in a girls mind that says YES or NO the SECOND she detects either a verbal or non-verbal signal of interest. By using direct approach theory (being up front about your desires), she may find this sexually appealing, because you’re being confident unlike other guys, and just going for it. This ALONE may cause the switch to trigger to ‘YES’. Thus, direct approach theory CAN work. You are attempting to knock down the girl in one move – being upfront. However, if it is not immediately switched, the chick will switch it to ‘NO’. For example, you might advocate this approach because your aim is to WEED OUT girls that aren’t at interested right now.
This might suit your lifestyle, and I don’t dispute it gets many lays. For me, I ENJOY chasing harder to get girls, so I devise this system to get me the girls that I’m interested in. Do these ways to attract women work? In essence, yes, but the difference in the systems are based NOT on whether or not they WORK. Rather, they are based on different pickup GOALS. For me personally, I also enjoy indirect approach, because it can STILL work for girls who were interested then, because I have a good intuition to recognize interest and exploit it. So it works in BOTH cases for me either way. Not that direct approach theory CAN’T get you harder-to-get girls.
However, it is important to understand that you’ve flipped the switch immediately off the opener, and you now risk working against the current instead of with it (her chasing you vs. her screening you) Likewise, indirect will still get you the easy girls so long as you recognize the easy/willing-prey and exploit it fast. In public gatherings, I prefer to HOLD OFF the signal of direct interest in every way possible, and first CONVEY STATUS and COOL stuff about myself. That way, I can be direct LATER if I want, and STILL get the same “this guy goes for what he wants, he is alpha” thing. However, I’m doing it AFTER she has earned it by chasing and qualifying herself to me, rather than before. She has MORE TO GO ON to make her decision to flip the switch YES or NO, because she not only says “he’s alpha for being direct, so I’ll say yes after I screen him”, but she’s looking at all the good stuff that I’ve conveyed PRIOR to making her flip the switch and she’s chased me PRIOR to having flipped it.
The notion that “if you’re indirect you’ll be told ‘let’s just be friends’ ” is no longer relevant for me personally, because I could NEVER be put into the friendship zone. The reason is that I don’t convey those qualities anymore (like back when I wasn’t a player), so even if I don’t go immediately sexual with her, she STILL finds me attractive, and therefore when I DO, I haven’t done anything to bar myself OUT of sexual communication with her, so it’s still EQUALLY as effective to if I’d flipped the switch right on the opener.
The idea that indirect approach theory will not close is based on the principle that somehow by not being upfront, the chick PERMANENTELY classifies you as non-sexual material. This is flat out not the case in my experience, but maybe for guys who are still new to field work, they suffer from this because they don’t have the alpha-male stuff internalized well enough, so they HAVE to rely on direct approach theory to be considered as a sexual prospect by the girl. Either way, for PUAs well into their careers, the risk of LJBF should be non-existent, by virtue of their internalized mannerisms. In conclusion, you can be direct or indirect with girls. Both work if you understand them. Ultimately it’s a personality choice.