Don’t be embarrassed about learning how to attract women!
Chatting to other guys in the Pick Up Artist community you hear stories from guys about how they thought that trying to learn to attract women and get their love lives on the right lines was embarrassing for them. I really don’t think it should be and I’ll tell you why.
Let’s say you’re shy and feel awkward. You realise that you have more potential in you but you feel bad about trying to learning about human dynamics.
This is common situation. They know learning they have a lack of confidence and learning pick up will help them.
What’s supposed to happen is that, as a man, you know how to interact with women and get laid. It’s not very cool, so the story goes, if you have to be taught.
Time for a mind-set shift. If you’re thinking this, you’re not the first guy. If they weren’t other people like you, I wouldn’t be bothering to write this. But think of this:
If a girl went to a salon and learnt how to do her hair and nails properly, would you judge her?
If someone took a dance lesson because they had a wedding soon and want to have some moves, would you think less of him?
If you saw someone at the gym getting a private lesson with a trainer, would you call him a loser?
All these are people who are doing EXACTLY the same thing as pickup: trying to better themselves. No more, no less. The difference is that few people know about PU, so there’s stigma attached to it because it seems like a crazy fringe activity. There’s a stigma attached to failing at anything – people to go around boasting they’re on anti-depressants for example.
If you find that your friends are supportive of your endeavours to change your life, then you might just have to leave them behind. If you’re going to change your life that will involve changing the people in it, for one, so if someone holds you back and is scared that you’ll come out of learning pick up as a newer and better version of yourself then feel sorry for them, not yourself.
In essence pick up shouldn’t be embarrassing. I mean, it’s just a bunch of dudes looking for love, right? And if you want to find something, you need to look. However people who misunderstand it think it is weird sometimes so the challenge is on to reframe it to them (and yourself) as it should actually be understood.
Learn to attract women will be a hard journey
So if what I’ve written above applies to you and you feel that there’s a stigma attached to having to ‘learn’ game, then don’t worry because you’re not unusual.
Really though, you should be congratulated because you’ve taken the step that all the other guys haven’t. Lots of men will stand around at a bar talking about the hot women, but almost none of them will have the balls and go and talk to the women they’re talking about. The guy who will go furthest in the long run is the guy who gets up off his stool, walks over, tries and then fails, than the rest of the guys. Any success requires you to break away from the herd at least a little bit.
Some guys and lots of girls think it’s sneaky to intentionally try to seduce women. But, I ask, what have men been doing in their entire history? You should be embarrassed if you want to be good at doing the manliest thing of all – shagging chicks. What’s more, you can’t trick someone into liking you – if someone feels like they are attracted to you then they are. You can’t bamboozle someone with pheromones. If someone wants to sleep with you then they will. So do learn to attract women and don’t be embarrassed that you’re trying to improve your life.