Doesn’t leave you feeling as though they could help you find a casual partner does it?

Having said that, there are some adult websites out there that are in fact legit and they do have REAL people on there looking for one off NSA sex.

From my own experience I can tell you that there are a handful of sites that monitor their day to day activity and make sure that only real men and women are using their site for what it was intended for, these are the best adult dating sites that I know of.

Today I’m going to be giving you a few tips on how to setup your account, check to see if you’re contacting real people and choosing the best type of site.

How to setup an account

Most people don’t really create very compelling profiles which is why they never get any clicks or anyone messaging them. The key to a good profile consists of 3 ingredients:

1. A great photo

The main photo on your account is the most important one, it’s the one that people see first and will drive the clicks. So it needs to be creative and compelling. I would advise that you use the “normal” approach which is to leave your clothes on and smile.

Yep you heard me, a simple upper body and head shot with you smiling naturally. The shot needs to have been taken within the last month, otherwise it shouldn’t be uploaded.

2. A bunch of photos

The more photos you can upload the better. Think of it as like an ecommerce store, Amazon have multiple shots for their products because they know that people can’t physically touch the product so the next best thing is a picture.

Take photos of you out socialising, in various places, smiling, posing… take at least 8 to 10 shots and upload them.

3. Intriguing ‘about you’ section

Whatever you do, please do not add the same old boring stuff that everyone else does. Things like “I’m a fun person… looking for a fun person to have a good time with”. It’s so lame! You need to be funny, quirky and different if you want to catch someones eye.

Say something like “Hey, I’m new to this whole online adult dating thing, so be gentle with me… save that stuff for the bedroom ”

Checking a fake account

Unfortunately you will at some point come across a fake account. Here’s how to tell if the account is fake:

• Blatant advertisement – If you see a profile with “Hey, looking for fun? Call me on this number” then it’s a fake account and probably a hooker.

• Bad photos – If the account holder has chosen to hide themselves in the pictures by taking a shot of the back of their head or just their body, then it’s more than likely going to be a fake account.

The best types of sites

There are a handful of sites online that are really good. The best way to tell the good sites from the bad are if you look out for one of two things. The first is how many people there are on the site, if there’s a couple of thousand then it won’t be any good.

You need to look for sites that have over 100,000 members. The second thing to watch out for is if it’s paid, you should always avoid the free sites as these attract the most crazy people and folks who just aren’t serious about looking for a casual hookup.

So that’s it, hope you enjoyed those tips on adult dating.

A Pick Up Artist is somebody that centres a ton of his time and energy on approaching, seducing and picking up chicks of all ages and varieties, so that he can have strong game.

When he’s savvy with exactly how attraction works and what ladies are attracted to in a man, his work is essentially done. He is able to then confidently go out to a bar, nightclub or maybe even a coffee house during the day and pickup a woman he likes the look of.

This is exactly what a Pick Up Artist bootcamp can offer you. The opportunity to tread beyond your comfort zone, master the techniques to entice girls and finally have sex occasionally, without counting on destiny or alcohol.

Precisely why a PUA workshop may be the greatest thing for you

If you’ve ever been out with a bunch of lads or with a few work mates, saw a girl by the bar and uttered to yourself…” Man, I seriously wish I had the confidence to approach her”.

Or you’ve been walking down the street on your journey to the office and a stunning woman has walked right by you, yet you’ve grasped that you have zero game, therefore there’s no real point in attempting to talk with her because you don’t know exactly what to say.

A live event can easily help you get over this …

Whenever you show up at a PUA bootcamp, you are required to approach a quantity of women over the session of a weekend or evening. Coaches are chosen to help mentor you during the course and tell you exactly where you failed, like an experienced wingman essentially.

If you’re just a normal guy who needs to have sex more, or perhaps even uncover that one precious girl, a bootcamp may just be the most effective thing you can ever do for your game.

How much does a PUA workshop cost?

There are loads of PUA bootcamps out on the marketplace nowadays, one of the most in demand is from a company called PUA Training, who are one of the largest seduction and pickup companies around.

You ‘d be getting prices between $599 to $2,499 depending on the course duration, techniques discussed and coach training on the day. That price range might come as a surprise to you, however just imagine the skills you’re likely to get from it.

Here’s the product: Stealth Attraction.

As I see it, Stealth Attraction is the final destination that the seduction industry has been moving to since its inception less than 20 years ago. Almost every successful PUA tells the same story: they were nerdy and lonely. Then they realised they could analyse social situations and change their own behaviours. They improved by joining the strange seduction community world and, one painful rejection at a time, learnt to date and seduce the women they had always wanted. Eventually most PUAs cease to be PUAs and just became indistinguishable from the cool normal guys they had always wanted to be.

Behind the stealth attraction review

It seems that the industry has been undergoing a parallel journey of development. Just as each individual has stages of development, I think the industry, in terms of its products and paradigms, has been evolving. First you had things like Speed Seduction and NLP where sexually unsuccessful guys found some success by doing socially weird things. Then you had PUAs like Mystery and Style who developed this and became highly successful whilst still operating outside of conventional standards. Next you had those such as AFC Adam who dropped the routines and focused on harnessing social dynamics. And with Stealth Attraction you have Gambler who is indistinguishable from the naturals in the high-end venues he goes to.

So I think Game has been changing and what it’s lacked up ‘til now is a product that has been able to help those who want to transition to the final stage of being a PUA: where you actually stop being a PUA and re-enter society as a high-value social guy.

Gambler’s product is aimed to get you to that end-stage lifestyle where you’re going out to the coolest clubs with the most fun guys and the hottest girls (that’s what he says anyway). This sociable lifestyle is both a means to the end of banging hot girls and an end in itself. That’s why it’s slightly harder to explain Gambler’s product: it doesn’t just concentrate on how to get laid when you are interaction with a girl. It aims to get you to the lifestyle where it’s possible to get high-value girls like models or actresses in high-class venue at night (Gambler, I think, only does night game).

So the DVDs cover lots of areas. Gambler teaches you about everything you need to fix before you get to the club including body language, style and mental state. It also covers the social dynamics of high-end venues and how to operate in them. So you learn to do things, and how to do them, like befriending bouncers to get easier access to clubs and promoters to get VIP treatment and access to further clubs. If you started off as an AFC then you’re going to have to go through several social circles to get to the coolest parties.

So Gambler teaches you how to get access to one set of clubs and then, once you’re established there, how to get access to higher quality places. There are also sections on how to befriend rich guys by using a bit of charm and your game to hook them up with girls so that you can, by association, life the lifestyle you’d never be able to afford yourself. All this is very intricate stuff and Gambler does an excellent job of explaining how to use game to move forward in society.

The main bit, and the bit you’d be expecting, is Gambler’s version of sneaky indirect game that, he claims, is rejection proof. The explanation behind this is Gambler is advocating a playful, push-and-pull style of game that means that the girl is attracted to you, but you haven’t directly done something that means she can reject you. It’s quite hard to explain until you see it done. It’s subtler than conventional push-pull however, in that the pushes and pulls are not so obvious. If you’re successful, then Gambler hopes you’ll have got her all the way back to your bed without ever having to have put yourself in a situation that allows rejection. In addition to advocates a new style of game, he also throws in a huge amount of innovative feints, manoeuvres and flim-flams than will fit effectively into just about any interaction.

Stealth attraction review conclusion

I deliberately haven’t spoken of my own experiences with this – although I have bought and do use it. I wrote this review to set out how, and why, I think this product is exactly the sort of end progression I’ve always thought would be developed by the community that aims to take you from a nobody to having that regulation cool life that I (and you) have always wanted. Congratulations to Gambler for being the first to develop this post-PUA product.

So there you have it, my exclusive stealth attraction review. Hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed reviewing it.

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“Women only like jerks” “nice guys finish last” “girls only go for assholes”, this kind of thinking is bullshit.

This can be perceived by “nice guy culture” as an excuse for a poor love life and justified because they are such catchy sayings.

This is perceived only. An extension of conditioning is all it really is. Many guys who are conditioned that women don’t like sex tend to then also not be sexual in nature to appease them and ends up in a giant loop.

“Well I wasn’t pushy with her, I wasn’t desperate or needy for sex” “she still didn’t have sex with me or even pay attention to me” “women must not like sex”. This one can take years to get out of, abandon this shit right here right now. This is ALL verbally based. Nothing you can be, or project or show sexually is “jerk”, nothing you can be or show or project is “needy”, “desperate” or “pushy” barring stuff like:

Ramming your pelvis in to hers upon first meeting (jerk)

Slapping her ass as she walks by (sexist jerk)

Hugging all over her on first sign of interest (needy)

Salivating and rubbing all over her (desperate)

Grabbing her arm and trying to make her get sexual with you (pushy).

Laughing or smiling cause she is emotionally disturbed (insensitive dickhead)

Which is all obvious stuff of course.

Other than blatant things like the above you would have to SAY Jerkish or needy things to convey them:

“quit talking about your sickly little brother I am sick of hearing it” as an example of jerk, or desperate things sexually “I know we just met but I haven’t had a woman in so long, please sleep with me tonight” as an example of needy.

In other words feel what you are. Feel your desire; don’t quell it for worry you’ll be thought of one way or another. Your actions and words are how you will be thought of (more on this later, lot more). Women can’t read your mind and tell what you are thinking, and even if they could, quelled sexuality would not be a turn on. This leads us to our next example.

Conditioning 2

“Chicks dig gay guys” or women say, “all the good men are gay”.

Yeah they SAY they like them. Remember above? Well they also by “the code” have to say they like a man who doesn’t care about sex. They even hang out with them. Hug them, give them kisses, dance with them, and leave the club with them. Probably sounds better than what you are getting right? But guess what!

They don’t sleep with them cause they are GAY. Barring bisexuals who deal with the same sexual issues we do with women, women LIKE gay guys they don’t have sex with them for obvious reasons.

Conditioning 3

“We want what runs from us”

“We want what we can’t have”

“Women like a guy who doesn’t pay any attention to them”

Mentally warped people with self-esteem issues may think like this. “I wouldn’t be a part of any club that would have me” type of thinking is all this is. The rest of the 99% of human beings like a good thing to come along.

This conditioning turns in to a perception sometimes. EVEN worse. You just talk to a woman you sexually desire but don’t show any desire, she in turn responds well. You maybe even try to act disinterested. “Alright she is liking me” you think.

You then later on make an advance, and get “we should just be friends” or “I have to get up early”. Also known as letting you down easy. She wasn’t attracted to your non-sexual act. She was just being polite to someone who she was introduced to or talked to her. People do that sometimes, just sometimes, with interesting people or nice people. End game comes, closing time, time for the mamba wamba. Suddenly you have broken this precedent in attempting sex/kiss/intimacy.

Drag it on with getting her phone number, meeting her, taking her out on a date later, drag it on long as you like, but if she doesn’t see you as a sexual being, an attractive sexual partner, closing time comes, then it’s all been just a big waste of time.

You’ve done that. Seen that. Heard of actions like this and they worked? Well it could have worked quicker with the same couple because they were so physically hot for each other, it could have worked out a number of ways. Only in cases of extreme attraction does this work. We aren’t in the business of getting lucky here folks; we are going to drive home the right way.

Never hide your sexual desires to be “liked”. Never pretend “oh I’m not interested in you” to get past her conditioning against sex. This will not only backfire it will waste your time.

Conditioning 4

“Women say the first thing they want is a sense of humor”

“Chicks dig my sense of humor”

“Damn John gets laid a lot, must be because he keeps the chicks laughing”

A commonly observed scenario: a woman laughs at guy’s jokes, and then ends up having sex with him later on. Predictably, every guy there who sees it says,

“She must like a guy with a sense of humor”, and proceed to go out and ENTERTAIN, rather than ATTRACT women, in hopes that she will like them SOOO much she will jump his bones right there. This is not going to happen unless she is VERY attracted to him in another way. We want to work with what looks we have and move them in the right directions for sex better than other guys, not create a non sexual rapport with jokes and funny stories.

How does he always get the girl?

He does what he’s always been doing, that’s why he always gets the girls. This was something that had been bugging me for a long time. One of my friends was a natural, despite being short, fat and rude. I asked him what the secret was, and he said ‘just go for it and if it hits it hits’. I thought there must be more to it than that, but looking back and analysing it I realise that I can break down what he meant. I have now reached a stage where I can break this down and analyse it, so that I have now reached a position where I can share my knowledge and teach it. What does improve your game immensely is experience. The more stuff I practiced, the better I got. Whilst growing up he’d got experienced with women, whereas I had preferred practising computer games. I couldn’t relate to him just going for it until I began to teach others how to approach, and began to realise that I would have to analyse what I do and break it down for them, so that I could teach others to use my techniques. This is the major difference between my natural friend and I – he does what he’s always done and hopes it hits; I’ve broken it down so that I can adapt it to, I’d like to say, any circumstance.

What do I have to do to get the women I want?

Now I know nothing about Ice Hockey, but I really like this phrase from the famous player Wayne Gretsky and feel it applies to many things in life, as well as game: ‘I MISS 100% OF THE SHOTS I DON’T TAKE!’

First thing I had to do if I saw a woman I liked is start shooting – just go for it!

Once I started opening, and with more practice, I began to realise the similarities between women, people and society and the way they think. The main principle is that if you can create a connection with a woman you’re far more likely to create a lasting impression and she’s more likely to remember you than other guys. What this meant has taken me a while to break down into a teachable format, and I didn’t want to introduce it until I could teach you how to replicate it.

Now if I ask you to picture a high-value woman I can guarantee that the first things you imagine will not be her personal attributes, but her exterior – i.e. the way she looks. Every other man will think the same; they will picture a hot woman. Everywhere this woman goes she is the centre of attention, guys will want to talk to her, they will do all the chasing, and the woman will choose to hang around with the high-value guys, such as the owner of a club, or the best dancer at salsa class, or the CEO of a corporation – men with high status. We have all seen it happen when a high-value woman is surrounded by men all vying to gain her attention, all eager to please her. What you have to ask yourself is how can you make yourself stand out and forge a connection with this woman, so that she remembers you above the rest? The answer to that question is ‘building a connection’.

The reason it is difficult to build a connection when you meet somebody is because, ‘people are like icebergs, with only a small percentage of who they are really visible’, as neatly summed up by the author Judith Guest in her novel ‘Ordinary People’. Furthermore you’ll often hear people, and women in particular, refer to moments when they’ve met someone who they’ve just, ‘hit it off with’, and formed a strong connection with, yet they fail to explain the moment any further than that. Most people believe that these connections are formed through commonalities – shared feelings or experiences – which they can bond over and form a deep connection. However, you can, regardless of who you are or what you do, create connections with anyone and everyone you meet, leaving people with that impression that you’ve, ‘really connected’, and, ‘hit it off’, and effectively leading to that unexplainable attraction, which makes ‘The Difference’. I will delve further into this topic in my next article on creating that connection.

It’s not like the movies. Badgering of needy, boring behaviour will not get you anywhere. Unlocking a women desire is the only way for her to reciprocate your feelings. That’s a very push/pull method and is solid gold.
Spoiling her and always being the nice understanding guy will lead to one kind of romance, as Lady Gaga would say it a Bad Romance! Don’t be the friend don’t be the doormat. Be the man, being nice is sweet, but it’s not being attractive.

Deep stimulation is the way to stir up a woman’s emotions. Certain rules must be applied first to reach the level of such emotional stimulation, certain steps and methods you have to progress through, like powering up for a final boss in a video game. And these are called the phases of attraction. And we’re going to go through each one.

SELECT YOUR TARGET

Be different for every girl. Radiate a sincerity and cockiness when needed. Be fussy, be picky it leads to being more attractive. It also changes your outlook to be selective, it reprograms your mind.

You will make a million excuses why you shouldn’t approach a girl. You will fault her and yourself, find tons of reasons why you won’t approach. But none of these will work or be worth it and by being selective and being picky, you won’t be able to call up these reasons, because you’ve found a target that has met your criteria.

Now don’t hesitate just do it, count to 5 then talk. Count to 3 then walk, carry on counting while you walk, when you get to 5 tap her on her shoulder and start talking. Hesitate at your own peril.

SPARK THE ATTRACTION

When it comes to meeting women, timing what you do is everything. Most guys think they have to be deep and romantic right off the bat. That is very wrong, they do it too soon, there is a time and a place for everything.

Being deep, heavy and serious comes much later. At first you need to get her to smile, laugh and have fun, to build attraction and show you’re a man of substance. By teasing and playing with her. I use the little sister mindset here (I treat her like my little sister, being playful and teasing her).

Careful not to insult her, this is such a problem, teasing and being funny is one thing but to insult is bad. There is a fine line between being funny and cocky and being hurtful and a jerk. Most guys starting out trying to tease and be playful insult whilst trying and make a mess up, this is very wrong for obvious reasons. Be mindful of what you say.

A girl will only care what you think and will want to impress you when she thinks you’re a man of substance. Subtle breaking down of her resistance will achieve this. This is why we tease and play. We do what I call “human teasing“. We slightly make them less super and more human by correcting or pointing out subtle flaws i.e. “there something on your nose while rubbing yours “or say “your hair is out of place” then you touch it to correct it, this helps with the kino as well. It’s all about certain things being effective at the right time.

QUALIFICATION

Now it’s time to make her the hoop jumper. Qualify her and give her statements of qualification. We must Challenge her, trigger investment on her part. Give a statement that needs her to be ok, like saying “I will only date blondes” or saying “I can’t date a girl who doesn’t like football” or a very tired and tested good common one is “tell me 3 interesting thing about yourself”. This makes her talk about herself, making herself ok for you, being the girl you want her to be and investing in you.

TRUST + COMFORT

Once she has jumped through our hoops and latched onto our qualification by investing, then we know it is time to be the deep meaningful serious guy. It is time to create trust and comfort.

Women by nature and because of a lifetime of programming do not trust men. We have to flip this script by doing a serious of things at the same time to speed up this process. We have to Listen while doing A&A (affirming and asking, while we talk and she says something, we cant make it sound like and interrogation and probe her, so when she says something like “I just got back from Paris, you must say “I love Paris, I went last summer, loved the pastries, what was your favourite part?” instead of just asking what her favourite part was).

Also having commonalties, mirroring her movements and getting her to do the same by mirroring yours (e.g. like smiling, if you smile she will smile too). It will be a speed up of all this comfort building they would normally take weeks in just a few minutes.

INTIMATE ESCALTION

Close off the interaction on a high note, if you got the moxie to kiss then kiss. Don’t get left in eh friend zone, the dreaded LJBF is just a few words away.

Personally I’d rather loose out than get that, try hard and do it right by yourself don’t waste your emotions and time. Go for the close, if you get rejected so be it. It’s better than wasting time and being the friend.

I’ve looked at it like this, if you’ve gone through all the other steps then it won’t be much of a risk, and if need be, just number close her if you getting the vibe, by telling her to giver you her number, never ask for it, people respond better to being told what to do. The make a second date.

Try build up the moxie by then to re step and close. For a good formula, I say get the number first, and then go for the kiss, that way if it blows out you can try again by making a second date. But you must be the man and go for gold, because you’ll never know.

RockyJJP

Now what are these and why is this crucial? Direct game is where you let the woman know what your intentions are towards her – that you are attracted to her and want to sleep with her. For example ‘You’re really attractive, I just had to come over here and say hi’. Indirect game is where you approach the woman but she is not sure whether you are hitting on her or just being friendly. For example, you approach and ask her for her opinion on whether you should dye your hair blonde.

Let me explain this a bit more. There is a SWITCH in a girls mind that says YES or NO the SECOND she detects either a verbal or non-verbal signal of interest. By using direct approach theory (being up front about your desires), she may find this sexually appealing, because you’re being confident unlike other guys, and just going for it. This ALONE may cause the switch to trigger to ‘YES’. Thus, direct approach theory CAN work. You are attempting to knock down the girl in one move – being upfront. However, if it is not immediately switched, the chick will switch it to ‘NO’. For example, you might advocate this approach because your aim is to WEED OUT girls that aren’t at interested right now.

This might suit your lifestyle, and I don’t dispute it gets many lays. For me, I ENJOY chasing harder to get girls, so I devise this system to get me the girls that I’m interested in. Do these ways to attract women work? In essence, yes, but the difference in the systems are based NOT on whether or not they WORK. Rather, they are based on different pickup GOALS. For me personally, I also enjoy indirect approach, because it can STILL work for girls who were interested then, because I have a good intuition to recognize interest and exploit it. So it works in BOTH cases for me either way. Not that direct approach theory CAN’T get you harder-to-get girls.

However, it is important to understand that you’ve flipped the switch immediately off the opener, and you now risk working against the current instead of with it (her chasing you vs. her screening you) Likewise, indirect will still get you the easy girls so long as you recognize the easy/willing-prey and exploit it fast. In public gatherings, I prefer to HOLD OFF the signal of direct interest in every way possible, and first CONVEY STATUS and COOL stuff about myself. That way, I can be direct LATER if I want, and STILL get the same “this guy goes for what he wants, he is alpha” thing. However, I’m doing it AFTER she has earned it by chasing and qualifying herself to me, rather than before. She has MORE TO GO ON to make her decision to flip the switch YES or NO, because she not only says “he’s alpha for being direct, so I’ll say yes after I screen him”, but she’s looking at all the good stuff that I’ve conveyed PRIOR to making her flip the switch and she’s chased me PRIOR to having flipped it.

The notion that “if you’re indirect you’ll be told ‘let’s just be friends’ ” is no longer relevant for me personally, because I could NEVER be put into the friendship zone. The reason is that I don’t convey those qualities anymore (like back when I wasn’t a player), so even if I don’t go immediately sexual with her, she STILL finds me attractive, and therefore when I DO, I haven’t done anything to bar myself OUT of sexual communication with her, so it’s still EQUALLY as effective to if I’d flipped the switch right on the opener.

The idea that indirect approach theory will not close is based on the principle that somehow by not being upfront, the chick PERMANENTELY classifies you as non-sexual material. This is flat out not the case in my experience, but maybe for guys who are still new to field work, they suffer from this because they don’t have the alpha-male stuff internalized well enough, so they HAVE to rely on direct approach theory to be considered as a sexual prospect by the girl. Either way, for PUAs well into their careers, the risk of LJBF should be non-existent, by virtue of their internalized mannerisms. In conclusion, you can be direct or indirect with girls. Both work if you understand them. Ultimately it’s a personality choice.

First off, peacocking. If you’ve not heard of peacocking you’ve not been in the seduction community very long. Peacocking is where you dress in a way that gets you noticed. Most pick up artists will understand this in terms of what Mystery did, which is wear outrageous clothes like furry hats, goggles, paint your nails black, wear shiny jewellery etc.

Peacocking is good because it makes you stand out. It makes it easier to get laid because women are more likely to notice and be attracted to you compared to if you just blended into the background. To get laid you very often need to be different from all the other guys.

However, you don’t have to peacock like Mystery. You can draw attention to yourself if you’re just dressed well. A good suit, well-fitting jeans, the odd piece of jewellery will make you stand out without repelling the women who think that the guy wearing a furry top hat must be a weirdo.

Secondly watch for approach invitations. An approach invitations (AI) is where a girl is giving you a sign, whether consciously or subconsciously, telling you that she wants you to come over and talk to you. Lots of guys trying to attract women fear that the women will reject them, but if you know what to look for you can avoid rejection by approaching women already attracted to you.

Tips to attract women: but how do you know it’s an AI?

Women who want to be approached with create an opportunity for you to do it. If you’re in a bookstore and an HB You’re in a bookstore and an HB walks up and stands near you and at that moment starts making a fuss to dig through her huge sack called a “purse” to dig out a scarf and keeps making a lot of commotion to put the scarf on, fix her hair, whatever.  That’s an AI.  The beauty of an AI is that it creates your opener for you – you no longer have to
worry about WHAT to say to open with a chick.  In that situation, all you’ve got to say is: “Interesting scarf” or “That’s a huge bag” or “Hi”.

You are much more likely to get a positive response from an AI situation than a cold approach using either a canned opener or coming up with something interesting while initiating conversation.  It could be ANY number of things to get your attention that in most circumstances is out of the normal.  She decides to tie her sneakers in front of you.  She asks people around her stupid questions.  She says something really dorky out loud to her friend, easily overheard by you.  She seems to stall in the areas you’re standing.  She starts tapping her fingers on a surface near you. She drops something near you, pretends to be interested in something near.

I had a girlfriend who used to play bambi and fall over in front of guys she liked so that they would come and talk to her. Guys thought ‘sweet, I’ve got a good reason to talk to this girl’ which was exactly what she wanted them to think.

There are other more subtle signs to look for. If a girl is on the edge of a group and is looking round then she’s bored and wants to be approached. If a girl makes eye contact, or smiles, or waves, or makes any signal directed specifically at you then she wants you to come over. Another good indicator is proximity. The girls that come and dance next to you on the dance floor are the ones that are interested. They might not even consciously register it themselves but if they are attracted they will come and dance closer.

So here I’ve given you two great tips to attract women. Firstly dress to impress and think about wearing clothes that make you stand out in a good way. Lots of guys are lazy about their fashion so if you’re not this a huge advantage. Secondly learn how to spot girls that are already into you – you don’t need to attract women if they are already attracted to you!

Let’s say you’re shy and feel awkward. You realise that you have more potential in you but you feel bad about trying to learning about human dynamics.

This is common situation. They know learning they have a lack of confidence and learning pick up will help them.

What’s supposed to happen is that, as a man, you know how to interact with women and get laid. It’s not very cool, so the story goes, if you have to be taught.

Time for a mind-set shift. If you’re thinking this, you’re not the first guy. If they weren’t other people like you, I wouldn’t be bothering to write this. But think of this:
If a girl went to a salon and learnt how to do her hair and nails properly, would you judge her?

If someone took a dance lesson because they had a wedding soon and want to have some moves, would you think less of him?

If you saw someone at the gym getting a private lesson with a trainer, would you call him a loser?

All these are people who are doing EXACTLY the same thing as pickup: trying to better themselves. No more, no less. The difference is that few people know about PU, so there’s stigma attached to it because it seems like a crazy fringe activity. There’s a stigma attached to failing at anything – people to go around boasting they’re on anti-depressants for example.

If you find that your friends are supportive of your endeavours to change your life, then you might just have to leave them behind. If you’re going to change your life that will involve changing the people in it, for one, so if someone holds you back and is scared that you’ll come out of learning pick up as a newer and better version of yourself then feel sorry for them, not yourself.

In essence pick up shouldn’t be embarrassing. I mean, it’s just a bunch of dudes looking for love, right? And if you want to find something, you need to look. However people who misunderstand it think it is weird sometimes so the challenge is on to reframe it to them (and yourself) as it should actually be understood.

Learn to attract women will be a hard journey

So if what I’ve written above applies to you and you feel that there’s a stigma attached to having to ‘learn’ game, then don’t worry because you’re not unusual.

Really though, you should be congratulated because you’ve taken the step that all the other guys haven’t. Lots of men will stand around at a bar talking about the hot women, but almost none of them will have the balls and go and talk to the women they’re talking about. The guy who will go furthest in the long run is the guy who gets up off his stool, walks over, tries and then fails, than the rest of the guys. Any success requires you to break away from the herd at least a little bit.

Some guys and lots of girls think it’s sneaky to intentionally try to seduce women. But, I ask, what have men been doing in their entire history? You should be embarrassed if you want to be good at doing the manliest thing of all – shagging chicks. What’s more, you can’t trick someone into liking you – if someone feels like they are attracted to you then they are. You can’t bamboozle someone with pheromones. If someone wants to sleep with you then they will. So do learn to attract women and don’t be embarrassed that you’re trying to improve your life.

If you watch natural players flirting this is something that you’ll notice. You can’t simply keep showing interest in a girl. If you’re always nice to her, never break rapport, do things like buy her flowers, ask her questions about herself and agree with what she says you might be her friend but she’s not going to find you sexually attractive. To be attractive you need to challenge the girl instead of being some placid yes man.

Equally, you can’t keep pushing the girl away. If you continue to break rapport, mock her, disagree with what she says, tease her, eventually she’ll just think you’re a bastard and walk away.

The answer then is push-pull, something which is genius and, at the same time, totally obvious once you realise you can’t be totally mean or totally nice if stand any good chance of consistent success.

To get a sense of where I’m going with all this, think, for example, of your favourite junk food. Imagine going on a strict diet for several weeks that prohibits you from eating your favourite food.

What would it feel like to finally give in to your urge and indulge after weeks of dieting?

I’m willing to bet it would taste a thousand times yummier after dieting than before. Push-Pull has a Tension Loops structure: the Push sparks unresolved emotional tension and the Pull releases this tension.

Push-Pull is a form of raising your value: the unresolved emotional tension compels women to seek resolution by chasing you. Because Push-Pull sends mixed signals, it keeps women guessing whether you hate them or like them, approve of them or disapprove of them, and want them or want to reject them. Over the course of an evening, this emotional rollercoaster fills their body with sexual tension and keeps you in the driver’s seat of the interaction.

The next question is how to sexually attract women by using push-pull in practice

The Push:

The Push should never be a flat-out insult.

The idea is to get under her skin a little. Playfully tease her about one of her insecurities, about her personality and physical flaws, about not having a chance with you, or about her falling short of your standards and expectations.

A Push hints that you don’t like her or divulges that you don’t like a part of her.

The Pull:

Is when you give her a compliment. These are the types of compliments you could give:

1) Physical beauty

2) Personality traits, likes, dislikes, hobbies, interests etc.

3) Things in her life she had to work for

4) Being a proactive participant in the interaction

5) Letting women know that they sexually arouse you

When using a Pull, don’t grovel. Instead, come from the place of an authority figure – think of a king or a teacher. A Pull reveals that you like her, discloses that you possibly like her, or demonstrates that you like a part of her.

Here’s an example:

Goad a woman into trying to make plans with you and then accuse her of asking you out on a date.

You can taunt women by talking about all the fun places you go, things you do, and hobbies you have. For example, say you’re telling this girl about this bar

“I was at this bar the other day that looked like nothing else. It was totally normal on the outside but on the inside it was the most luxuriously decorated world of splendour. Just standing at the bar ordering the drink was an experience. I bet we’d love it there”

So she’ll suggest, “We should go together,” and then ask, “When are you going to take me there?”

So then you bust her balls and ask, “Are you asking me out on a date?”

She’ll admit, “Well, I suppose so.”

And then you compliment her, “Well that’s good. I like assertive women.”

This first part was a Pull: I got her into asking me on a date.

The second part was a Push: I made her feel a little guilty about it.

The third Part was a Pull: I told her I liked that she asked me.

So push-pull, used correctly, is a great way of how to sexually attract women.